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What traits do cheaters have?

They lie or withhold information. ... Flaky/inconsistent in behaviour and effort. ... Lack of empathy or remorse in general. ... Lack of accountability. ... Very charming - BUT emotionally unavailable and avoid intimacy. ... Downplay seriousness of cheating (justify why cheating happens) ... Exes are talked about as “crazy” or “the problem” More items... •

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Why do people cheat?

We asked Dr Tari Mack ‘who is most likely to cheat?’ and she explained that there are two key personalities which have been found to be common amongst repeat cheating offenders. If you’ve found your partner to display narcissistic and / or sociopathic tendencies this is a major red flag and a tell-tale sign of pointing out a repeat cheater - someone that may cheat on you again, and again and again because it is part of their personality style. Here’s the OPENHOUSE 101 run down on narcissism and sociopathy - because trust us, they can hide anywhere!

Both narcissism and sociopathy are personality traits.

Narcissists are highly self-involved, in fact, so self-involved that they ignore the needs of those around them and everything is secretly about them. They disregard others or their feelings and don’t realise the effect that their behaviour has on others. They are often in superficial relationships and avoid intimacy but often they are wildly charming, attractive and successful too. They say all of the right things, they do all of the right things and they make you feel like this is everything you could have ever wanted. Over time, however, the truth of their behaviour starts to shine through.

Sociopaths, like narcissists, disregard others or their feelings,and in addition to this lack empathy for their wrongdoings. What this means is that they really don’t feel that bad or upset if you are upset. To achieve personal gain, they can be found to exploit and manipulate those around them. Basically, how can they use you to get what they want?

In fact, a lot of narcissists are sociopaths. Yes, that’s right, it is possible for a person to have traits of both (not ideal, we know). Traits of deceitfulness, manipulation and lack of remorse with zero empathy for their impact on others has been found time and time again in chronic cheaters. So how do we find ourselves in these relationships? Whether someone is a narcissist or a sociopath, or indeed both - these characteristics pair well together. And these ‘chronic liars’ lure us into a false sense of security at the beginning with their words and their gestures. We get so much validation and attention (otherwise known as LOVE BOMBING) from serial cheaters at the beginning but before we know it, when we’re already in too deep, things start to shift. Attention and words are so easy and it’s important to keep an eye on their behaviour over time. As Dr Tari says, “Integrity means your words match your behaviour.” Read on to find out the top 10 things you should look out for to identify a serial cheater before it’s too late.

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Here are 10 therapists backed signs of someone that is a serial cheater They lie or withhold information If they’re not transparent or don’t tell you what they’re doing, or provide you with information that you feel like is fair and reasonable in a relationship, then this is a red flag that they aren’t 100% communicative and that they might be likely to cheat on you. Flaky/inconsistent in behaviour and effort They lie about things or, for example, they say they’re going to be somewhere at a certain time but they’re not. They’ll call you at a certain time but they don’t. When someone says they are going to do something, it is really important that their actions align. Lack of empathy or remorse in general If you bring up something in the relationship that you’re upset about or you bring up a feeling they’re going to minimise it, they’re going to get defensive. They’re not really interested in your experience of the relationship. And, they’re not interested in your feelings or your perspective. Lack of accountability Nothing is ever their fault. Particularly when you enter into conflict - there are excuses for everything and there is always a justification for why they acted the way that they did. If this lack of accountability is in your relationship, this could be a danger sign for the long term. Very charming - BUT emotionally unavailable and avoid intimacy Serial cheaters often are able to get away with what they do because they have everyone wrapped around their little fingers. THese are the people that say all of the right things and do all of the right things and make you feel they are the one for you - but underneath it all, they may not let you as close as you want to be, or they continue to hold you at arm’s length. Downplay seriousness of cheating (justify why cheating happens) If they’re talking about cheating or someone else cheating, they’ll downplay it or minimise it. Often they will have excuses for why they cheated - either on you - or in their past relationships. There is little accountability and they don’t communicate the severity of the problem and how it has impacted them, or their partner - present or past. Exes are talked about as “crazy” or “the problem” Listen to how they talk about other people, especially exes because, for serial cheaters, often other people and exes are always the problem. Serial cheaters lack self-awareness and personal accountability. They don’t take responsibility for their behaviour. Get bored with monogamy Serial cheaters often find it difficult to be with one partner. At OPENHOUSE, we understand that monogamy is not for everyone - but we believe that, whatever your approach to monogamy, infidelity is an entirely different thing. For those who cheat constantly, often their relationships will be driven by a need for sex, attraction, chemistry and excitement - and maybe it never gets to a deeper level. This isn’t to say that people in deep, emotional relationships don’t cheat either - they sure do, but someone who gets bored with monogamy quickly may pose a red flag. Admit to cheating in previous relationships Often, serial cheaters may actually admit to the fact that they have cheated in previous relationships - BUT always have an excuse or have to justify it. Think “It was the exes fault or it was a bad relationship that should have ended way before it did”. Their behaviour shows resistance to change For many people who cheat on their partners, despite saying they will change, they don’t and they just continue the cheating behavior. In Episode 10 of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Dr Tari taught us that “Cheating often happens when you look outside yourself and a relationship for something. A healthy relationship is not a mechanism for you to be fed constantly. You need to feed yourself and if you haven’t learnt to do that you look to other people to get these old wounds, these unmet needs made”.

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