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Do you frequently glance around the room, only feel like people staring right at you?

For a brief moment, you feel embarrassed. You wonder if you have make-up smeared down your face, or if there is something stuck in between your teeth?

But then it happens again and again. Far too often to be a coincidence.

Everywhere you look, there seem to be people staring at you.

It feels uncomfortable, to say the least.

But the bigger question is: why are they doing it? Why are people staring at you in the first place?

Before you go frantically trying to pick out that (non-existent) piece of food from your teeth, let’s go through the main reasons why you might find that people stare at you. Let’s jump right in.

1) You’re beautiful

You might be too modest to admit, but people can stare because of your beautiful presence. If you haven’t considered this one before, it should be at the top of your list. It’s probably the best reason to be stared at if you ask me!

Consider whether or not you have any striking features.

You might have grown used to them (looking in a mirror each and every day), but for passers-by, it’s entirely new to them. They can’t help but look. You’re simply beautiful. My one-year-old son has huge eyes. Not just big, but huge and they pop out of his head. They’re also gorgeous. When we go out and about, people can’t help but comment on them. We’re used to them in our family, and it’s not until we come into contact with others, that we remember his eyes are usual. They’re different. They’re beautiful. The difference is, that people are less likely to approach an adult to comment on their beauty. With kids, it’s a completely different story. So, while people aren’t telling you that your hair, eyes, eyelashes, face, etc, is beautiful, they are doing it by staring. Whether they caught a glimpse of you as you walked into the room, or locked onto your features and couldn’t turn away. Their eyes want to keep on looking.

2) They’re trying to read you

If you are quieter and reserved, people might stare at you to try to figure you out.

Are you shy and introverted? Happy to slink to the back of the crowd and go unnoticed if possible?

This could, in fact, actually be drawing more attention to you.

A new study by the University of London’s Hannah Scott and colleagues (2018) is based on the idea that people stare, because “faces, and in particular, the eyes, provide lots of useful non-verbal information about a person’s mental state.” If you’re not the type to speak up in a crowd, then your friends and family might frequently check in by staring at you to make sure you’re OK. It’s their way of talking to you, without trying to get you to open up with them. A group of strangers might do the same. It’s their way of reading the room and trying to gauge what everyone is thinking.

We often call it “people watching”.

If you often find people are staring at you (not just friends and family), then it may suggest you have one of those faces people can’t work out. They are staring to try and read as much as possible into it.

3) Your hair is pink

So maybe this one is a stretch, but consider whether there is anything unusual about you, that might cause people to look at you a little longer.

Is there something unusual about your appearance? Think about:

The colour of your hair?

Your body piercings?

Tattoos?

Make-up?

Clothes?

While all this is familiar and normal for you – and perhaps your friends and family too – it won’t be to strangers. You may have simply forgotten that rainbow-colored hair isn’t the norm. Or those tattoos you have had for years are actually quite out there and different from anything else.

People can’t help but stare when they spot something different.

A glance at yourself in the mirror. Do you see anything that others might find unusual (even if you don’t)?

4) You dress well

If you take care of yourself and your outer appearance, others will stare and take notice. The way we look and present ourselves each and every day can actually be a head-turner. If you’ve invested a fair amount of time into your wardrobe, hair, make-up, and styling, then there’s a good chance that people are staring at you because they’ve noticed it.

Put simply, you look fabulous and you’re turning heads.

Once again, because you dress this way each and every day and aren’t doing anything differently, it may not cross your mind that you do dress and present yourself better than most other people out there.

What’s the norm for you, isn’t the norm for everyone else.

Embrace it and love it. You clearly look amazing and people can’t help but admire you on a daily basis.

5) You’re recognizable

People might stare at you because you have a face that reminds them of someone else.

Do people often tell you that you remind them of someone, but they don’t know who?

You might simply have one of those faces.

Whether you look like a well-known celebrity, so much so that people have to do a double-take. Or simply have one of those faces that people seem to think reminds them of someone else. If people notice something in you, then they’re going to stare until they work it out. They are essentially trying to place you, and often don’t even realize they are doing it. People get lost in their own thoughts, trying to work out if they know you, or you simply remind them of someone. And if so, who! Trust me, we’ve all been there before trying to work this out for ourselves and there is nothing more frustrating than not being able to pinpoint it. They are so caught up in their own thoughts, they wouldn’t even know they are staring.

6) They’re attracted to you

Someone will stare and watch you more closely because they are attracted to you. Do you believe in auras? Now might be the time to take a look into it. According to spiritual beliefs, an aura is an invisible energy field that surrounds your body.

Everyone gives off an aura.

There’s just a good chance yours is shining a little brighter than others around you. You’re attracting people to you through your aura and they can’t help but stare in the process.

An aura isn’t usually something you see.

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It’s something that you feel.

It’s possible that when you walk into a room, everyone feels compelled to stop what they are doing and to look over at you due to the feeling being elicited from your aura. Take it as good news. You’re putting out positive energy into the world and are attracting people to you as a result. They can’t help but stare.

7) You draw attention to yourself

People may stare at you because you draw their attention towards you.

Are you loud? Assertive? Boisterous? Not afraid of making a scene?

If you’re the type of person to walk into a meeting and interrupt everyone in the room, then there’s a good chance that you have a loud personality.

People tend to stare at those with a loud personalities.

In all likelihood, the things you do and say are making other people uncomfortable. They’re not as confident in themselves, and end up staring at you as a result. Whether or not you consider yourself to be making a scene, other people around you might see it that way.

It might surprise you!

8) They’re bored

Are you noticing that people are looking up at you at work or in a boring environment? Boredom can be one reason they are staring.

Have you ever found yourself so bored that you just zone out at the moment and stare at everyone else around you?

Surely, you’ve experienced this before.

If not, next time you notice people staring at you, consider where you are:

Doctor’s surgery?

Grocery checkout?

Bank?

All these places have one thing in common: they require waiting around for a while. For some people, it’s much more entertaining to pass the time by watching those around them. They might not even be aware they’re staring. They could simply be lost in their thoughts in the midst of boredom and have accidentally locked eyes with you in the process.

Staring when bored is completely normal.

And there’s a good chance it’s not just you that they’re staring at. They could simply be trying to place everyone in the room and work out their story: single? Married? Kids? The list is endless. In this case, it’s not you, it’s them. And it’s a fairly common way for people to pass the time. Perhaps you’re only noticing the staring because you’re not one to do it!

9) They’re trying to catch your attention

A person might be staring at you to catch your attention.

Eye contact is often used as a method of communication.

You may just be one of those people that needs to be prompted a lot more often than others.

When are you noticing that people are staring at you? Is it in the middle of a corporate meeting when it’s your turn to speak?

Is it with a group of friends when another friend is trying to let you know something?

Is it at the doctor’s when someone is trying to let you know that it’s your turn to go in?

You may not have recognized it at the moment, but there could have been a very good reason someone was staring at you.

There’s a good chance they were trying to tell you something.

Instead of racking your brain back to all those times someone stared at you, just keep an eye out (pun intended) going forward.

10) You’re dressed inappropriately

If you stand out for reasons like being dressed inappropriately or out of season or style, people will stare at you a little longer. It may not be that you’re the most stylish one in the room. Instead, you could be completely out of place thanks to the way you are dressed.

This is enough to get anyone’s attention.

Do you wear thongs and mini dresses almost every day? While this get-up is perfect for plenty of circumstances, they are going to have you standing out in the office or at a fancy restaurant. On the flip side, are you the type to dress really well each and every day? While this is perfect for office and fancy dinner, it doesn’t blend so well with a trip to the beach or the park. If you have a very unique fashion sense that you don’t tend to mix up a lot (ie, formal and non-formal), then it’s a good chance that people are staring at you because you’re simply out of place. While the way you dress is a great way of expressing yourself, it’s worth considering whether or not it’s appropriate for every single situation. If you feel it is, then own it. Ignore everyone who can’t help but stare at you and know that you’re being true to yourself, which is most important.

11) They’re judging you

People will stare at you because they are summing you up and judging your actions. Why is it that most people feel the need to judge?

It’s crazy to think that as a society, we get so wrapped up in the induvial lives of others, that we can’t help but stare when something seems out of place.

So, we stare, and we judge.

Consider whether there’s something about you that seems out of place.

Do you have lots of tattoos?

Are you a young mum?

Are you obese?

Do you swear a lot?

Do you have LOTS of children?

These are all things people might notice about you in passing and then judge you for. It says a lot more about them than it does about you. If you can pinpoint a reason people might want to judge you, then you might have your answer. While you might not think others have picked up on it, people tend to be a lot more perceptive than you think. And nosey. They want to involve themselves in the lives of others, even if just from afar. The best thing you can do? Hold your head up high and walk on past without even acknowledging them. Your decisions in life have nothing to do with them and they have no right to judge you for them.

12) You’re confident

On the flip side, if you have a great amount of energy and are extroverted, people might be staring at you because you exude confidence. You can walk into a room, and without saying a word, all eyes turn. They are feeding off your self-confidence, which is shown in the way you walk into a room and the way you hold yourself.

Many people don’t even realise they are doing it.

But it attracts the attention of those around you and they can’t help but stare.

They’re likely sizing you up.

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They want to know what you have that they don’t.

They want to know how they can exude the same level of confidence themselves.

13) You stare first

Is someone staring at you because you are standing at them? Consider this, perhaps other people are staring at you because you stared at them first?

You might not even realize that you’re doing it.

You might simply be one of those people who just zones out and ends up staring at people absent-mindedly and then when you come back to it, you find that they are staring at you.

They caught you staring at them and responded by staring straight back at you, then only thing is, you didn’t even realize you were doing it! Crazy, right?

You might find that it was you all along who instigated the staring, and nothing to do with the way you look or are acting.

14) You’re simply in their way

Another reason people stare at you is because they’re actually looking at something. And there’s a good chance it’s not you!

Perhaps there is a screen behind you that you’re blocking?

Maybe you’re standing in front of something very scenic people are trying to look at?

You could simply just be in the way of something beyond you.

Consider this, are you a particularly tall person? This is definitely more a tell-person problem! You stand up and find yourself in someone’s way, simply due to your height. People aren’t staring at you on purpose. They are actually trying to stare past you to something going on beyond. There’s not much you can do, since side-stepping will likely put you in the way of someone else’s view. If you find yourself in a crowd, always try and veer to the back in the hope that you aren’t blocking other people in front of you. Failing that, just accept that you can’t do anything about your height, so you’re simply going to own it. And if that means people stare at you from time to time, so be it! Nothing wrong with being tall.

15) It’s all in your head

It may feel like people are staring at you all the time, but that doesn’t mean it’s the case, it might be something you are incorrectly imagining. Often, when we feel insecure about some part of ourselves, we project that insecurity outwards and start to see things that aren’t there. You may think your nose is unusually large. As a result, you start thinking that everywhere you look people are staring at you. The truth is, no one else thinks that your nose is anything but normal.

No one but you!

Consider whether there is anything about you that you don’t like.

We all have things we’d like to improve.

While it might seem like a big issue for you, I can guarantee no one else sees it that way. There’s a good chance that no one is actually staring at you. You just think they are because of your own insecurities. It’s time to be gentle with yourself and recognize that being imperfect is part of what makes you perfect.

What can you do about this attention?

Now you have a good idea of why people are staring at you, what can you do about it?

In most sitution that strike your curiosity, or make you feel uncomfortable, you have two options:

The first is to simply do nothing.

Staring is completely harmless, so simply ride it out. Even better, own it. Most of the reasons people stare are positive ones, just take a look at our list above. You’re either beautiful, confident, attractive, well dressed, etc., and that’s something to be proud of. Take the extra attention in your stride and know that you’re turning heads because you’re doing something right.

The second option you have is to respond.

On the off-chance people are staring because you are dressing inappropriately, they’re judging you, or because you’re staring first, then now’s your chance to rise above and move on.

Nothing to do with you.

At the end of the day, staring is uncomfortable at worst.

It’s not going to actually hurt you.

If you want to be more active, you can be playful about it, for example, by raising an eyebrow or giving a little wink. You can even stare right back at them when you catch them looking. Have a bit of fun with it! Sometimes, you can get so uncomfortable with the fact that people are staring at you, that it makes you want to question them and say something. But when you respond with a charged emotion, the situation might quickly escalate into a problem. If you do feel like taking some of the control back from all these people who keep staring at you, simply offer them a knowing look as you walk away.

Meet their gaze.

Hold it.

And wait until they get uncomfortable and turn away.

And there you have it, the tables have now been turned, with no raised voices involved.

It’s a win-win.

If you find that you have a hard time in these situations, that you feel like you are suppressing your emotions and not acting authentically, it might be time to look at inwards. Situations that make us feel unfortable and anxious or angry are great teachers. They can point to areas that you might otherwise avoid. If staring brings up a slew of negative emotions in you, it can be time to start looking at the underlying cause and how you can build up a stronger sense of confidence. In this eye-opening video, the shaman Rudá Iandé explains how we can start to look inside at our reactions and use them as methods for inquire to empowering ourselves. Not suppressing emotions, not judging others, but forming a pure connection with who you are at your core. If this is what you’d like to achieve, click here to watch the free video.

So, if you find that you are feeling uncomfortable being at the end of someone’s gaze, try turning it inwards and ask yourself, what is it that I’m really afraid of? What is it that I have to fear?

The more you know yourself, the more confidently you can navigate through life and any awkward circumstances that you come across.

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