What does groomed a 13 year old mean?

Grooming is when a person tries to build a trusting relationship with a child or a child's family so that they can sexually abuse the child. Grooming involves the person building connection and trust with a child and family over days, weeks, months or years.

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Grooming: what is it?

Grooming is when a person tries to build a trusting relationship with a child or a child’s family so that they can sexually abuse the child. Grooming involves the person building connection and trust with a child and family over days, weeks, months or years. For example, the person might befriend a family and seem to have an amazing connection with the child. The person might gradually spend more and more time with the child. This lays the groundwork for sexual abuse at a later time.

Who might be involved in grooming?

Anyone can be a groomer – man or woman, friend, stranger or professional. A groomer could be a relative, family friend or someone from a family’s place of worship. Or a groomer could be a sporting coach, teacher or child care worker.

How and where does grooming happen?

Grooming can happen face to face or online.

If grooming is happening face to face, the person might find ways to get to know a child and the child’s family and offer to take the child on outings. The person might buy the child or family treats or gifts. Or the person might give the family and the child compliments and make them feel special. If grooming is happening online, the person might pretend to be a child of the same age or a celebrity. The person might use text, instant messaging, online chat and so on to build a relationship with the child. All children have the right to grow up safe from abuse. Talking with children about grooming and protecting children from sexual abuse is part of creating safe environments that help children grow and thrive.

Signs of grooming in children aged 0-11 years

Many of the signs of grooming can look like normal adult‐child relationships, which is why grooming is difficult to spot. But here are some signs that might indicate that your child or the child you’re caring for is being groomed.

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Your child:

has unexplained gifts like new toys or clothes

doesn’t want to talk about where the gifts came from

is getting lots of messages from someone they only know online

talks a lot about a particular adult or older child or wants to spend a lot of time with them wants to go alone when they meet a particular adult or older person

doesn’t want to talk about what they’ve been doing

stops telling you about their day or asking for your advice

spends more time alone in their room.

Signs of grooming in teenagers

These signs might indicate that your teenage child or the teenage child you’re caring for is being groomed.

Your child:

is in a relationship with a much older boyfriend or girlfriend

has unexplained gifts like clothes, jewellery or electronics

doesn’t want to talk about where the gifts came from

doesn’t want to talk about what they’ve been doing, or lies about it

is skipping school or sporting activities

is spending less time with friends or changes friendship groups suddenly

is getting lots of messages from someone they only know online

doesn’t want other people around when they’re with a particular girlfriend or boyfriend

doesn’t talk with you about thoughts or feelings anymore.

Signs someone is grooming parents

Grooming often involves gaining the trust of a child’s family or carers.

These signs might indicate that someone is grooming you or your family with the aim of sexually abusing your child or the child you’re caring for.

The person:

offers to take your child to sports or other activities, or offers to babysit or take your child camping

offers to mentor your child, individually coach your child, and so on

buys gifts for your family

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offers to do things for your family, like repairs or gardening

shows an interest in your child’s activities, wellbeing, school grades or other areas of your child’s life

compliments your family and parenting

plays innocently with your child and touches your child in a non-sexual way while you’re around – this gets you and your child used to the idea of physical contact

tries to start a flirtatious or romantic relationship with you.

Children and teenagers won’t or can’t always tell you that they’re being sexually abused. You might need to watch for signs of sexual abuse in your child’s behaviour and emotions instead.

What to do if you’re concerned that someone is grooming a child

Grooming isn’t always obvious. Groomers work hard to gain trust and respect from children and families. So it’s important to trust your instincts if something doesn’t feel right.

It’s also important to:

watch out for signs that you or your child is being groomed

stop the person from being alone with your child

avoid letting the person do favours for your family

ask other families who know the person what their relationship with the person is like encourage your child to talk by asking questions like ‘Is anything worrying you?’ or ‘Are you OK?’ contact the National Sexual Assault, Domestic Family Violence Counselling Service for advice by calling 1800RESPECT or 1800 737 732. This can help you make the best possible decisions to keep your child safe. If you suspect a child has experienced sexual abuse or has been groomed, report your concerns to the police on 000.

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