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What do you call your lover in Japan?

Koibito (恋人 / こいびと) is the Japanese word for 'sweetheart' or 'lover'. It consists of the characters for love (恋) and person (人). It can be used for a girlfriend or boyfriend, or even husband or wife. This term can be used regardless of your significant other's gender.

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Team Japanese uses affiliate links. That means that if you purchase something through a link on this site, we may earn a commission (at no extra cost to you). Every spring, two cute and romantic events are celebrated in Japan: Valentine’s Day (February 14) and White Day (March 14). On Valentine’s Day, the ladies express their love and admiration for the significant males in their life, usually by gifting them chocolate! Men are expected to respond a month later on White Day. After this fateful exchange, some people fall in love and become couples! The word for ‘girlfriend’ in Japanese is kanojo (彼女 / かのじょ), but there are other ways to say it. Let’s learn them together!

Kanojo

彼女

Girlfriend

The standard Japanese word for ‘girlfriend’ is kanojo (彼女 / かのじょ). This word can be used by anyone in different settings.

Example:

Kono bentou wa watashi no kanojo ga tsukutte kureta.

この弁当は私の彼女が作ってくれた。

この べんとう は わたし の かのじょ が つくってくれた。

My girlfriend made this bento.

If you are already familiar with basic Japanese, you’ll know this word also means ‘her’. How can you tell them apart? It all comes down to the context. Kanojo as in ‘girlfriend’ usually doesn’t follow an introduction to who the subject is. If you introduce someone first, then switch to using the pronoun kanojo, it’s usually understood as the pronoun ‘her’. It’s okay to say watashi no kanojo (私の彼女 / わたしのかのじょ) to be clear that you are speaking about your girlfriend. Native speakers, though, tend to use a person’s name with the appropriate honorific instead of personal pronouns.

Koibito

恋人

Sweetheart

Koibito (恋人 / こいびと) is the Japanese word for ‘sweetheart’ or ‘lover’. It consists of the characters for love (恋) and person (人). It can be used for a girlfriend or boyfriend, or even husband or wife. This term can be used regardless of your significant other’s gender. Unlike kare (彼 / かれ), the word for ‘boyfriend’, and kanojo, koibito doesn’t carry any gendered nuance.

Garufurendo

ガールフレンド

Girlfriend

Garufurendo (ガールフレンド) means ‘girlfriend’. Sometimes, common English words are borrowed and used in daily conversations. You might find people on social media and popular culture using this word to refer to their girlfriends.

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パートナー

Partner

Another gender-neutral term to refer to your significant other is paatonaa (パートナー). It is another loan word from English. More and more people are shifting their preference to gender-neutral terms nowadays. Whether between married couples or those who haven’t tied the knot, these words seem more favorable to some who are bothered by some gendered nuances in the Japanese language.

Motokanojo

元彼女

Ex-girlfriend

Even good things can come to an end. Ex-girlfriends are referred to as motokanojo (元彼女 / もとかのじょ). Younger people and teenagers typically shorten it to motokano (元カノ). The word moto (元 / もと) means ‘former’ or ‘past’. Other variations for ‘ex-girlfriend’ are marked by words that have similar meanings of ‘before’:

Mukashi no kanojo (昔の彼女 / むかしのかのじょ)

Mae no kanojo (前の彼女 / まえのかのじょ)

Motokoibito (元恋人 / もとこいびと)

What do you call your girlfriend in Japanese?

You would use the above words to talk about your girlfriend to some else, or to talk about another person’s girlfriend. But what do Japanese guys call their girlfriends, and what should you call your Japanese girlfriend if you want to be affectionate?

Japanese does not really use terms of endearment like in English (honey, babe etc). The most common way for Japanese guys to call their girlfriend is simply to use their first name, either by itself or with the suffix -chan. In Japanese, you would never call someone you don’t know well by their first name without an honorific suffix such as -san or -sensei. So if you call someone by their first name alone, this shows you have a very close and comfortable relationship.

Learn more about Japanese nicknames and terms of endearment here.

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