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Last spring, my wife grazed lips with a co-worker.

In Europe on business, she sounded a bit shaken when I called to check in.

“What’s wrong?” I asked.

“I…almost kissed my boss on the mouth,” she said.

“What?” I sputtered. “Is Paris really that enchanting?”

Turns out, she was not admitting to a clandestine managerial makeout session. She simply fell victim, as many Americans do, to that slippery social tradition around the world: the kiss greeting. Perhaps you’ve witnessed it in a Roman piazza between close friends, or on a beach in Rio de Janeiro among new acquaintances, and found yourself confused about its meaning. Unlike a simple handshake or hug, circumstances that warrant the cheek kiss differ by culture, and the logistics are equally as varied: In Spain, one kiss on each cheek is common; in some parts of Afghanistan, it’s customary to kiss up to eight times. All this to say that the cheek kiss is more art than science. For world travelers, a basic understanding of how it works is essential—make the wrong move and you risk offending the other person. Below is a rough guide to keep you from accidentally swapping spit with a well-meaning local.

The Origins

In his new book One Kiss or Two: In Search of the Perfect Greeting, career diplomat Andy Scott speculates on the origins of the cheek-kissing tradition: “In his Epistle to the Romans, St. Paul instructed followers to ‘salute one another with a holy kiss.’ And so the ‘holy kiss’ became a common greeting among early Christians and a central part of Catholic ceremony.” Over time, it’s possible that the biblical lip-to-lip salutation evolved into a kiss on the cheek, which would explain why the kiss greeting is popular in many densely Catholic countries. While the practice is also commonplace in parts of the Middle East and Asia, it’s ubiquitous in Latin America and continental Europe. Scott traces the kiss back to a peasant custom that was adopted by elites once lower classes began migrating into cities, suggesting that travelers are more likely to encounter kiss greetings in rural towns and villages than their metropolitan counterparts.

The Cheat Sheet

Not only is it worthwhile to know where you might have to turn a cheek, but it’s helpful to know just how many kisses to expect. In France alone, the count varies dramatically by region, according to a 2014 web survey of more than 100,000 citizens: Parisians consider two kisses the norm, while three is standard in Provence, and four throughout the Loire Valley. Here’s the common count for a sampling of other countries:

One Kiss: Colombia, Argentina, Chile, Peru, the Philippines

Colombia, Argentina, Chile, Peru, the Philippines Two Kisses: Spain, Italy, Greece, Germany, Hungary, Romania, Croatia, Bosnia, Brazil (though, like France, the number can differ by region), and some Middle Eastern countries (though not between opposite sexes) Spain, Italy, Greece, Germany, Hungary, Romania, Croatia, Bosnia, Brazil (though, like France, the number can differ by region), and some Middle Eastern countries (though not between opposite sexes) Three Kisses: Belgium, Slovenia, Macedonia, Montenegro, Serbia, the Netherlands, Switzerland, Egypt, and Russia (where it’s accompanied by a bear hug)

The Logistics

A kiss, by name, has its charming differences—it's el beso in Spain, beijnhos in Portugal, beijos in Brazil, and beso-beso in the Philippines—but the logistics are fairly straightforward. You start by leaning in and placing right cheek to right cheek, before moving to the left side—and back and forth thereafter if additional pecks are required. The primary exception is Italy, which starts il bacio on the left.

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How do you cuddle a kiss?

To kiss and cuddle with your boyfriend, first slide up close to him if you're sitting next to each other so your bodies are almost touching. Then, place your head on his chest or beside his neck to show that you want him to put his arm around you. Additionally, stretch down with your hand and stroke his palm.

This article was co-authored by Eddy Baller . Eddy Baller is a Dating Coach based in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada. Coaching since 2011, Eddy specializes in confidence building, advanced social skills and relationships. He runs his own dating consulting and coaching service named Conquer and Win, the only BBB accredited dating coaching business in Vancouver. Conquer and Win helps men worldwide have the love lives they deserve. His work has been featured in The Art of Manliness, LifeHack, and POF among others. This article has been viewed 2,234,324 times.

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If you’re in the mood to kiss and cuddle with your boyfriend, start by getting close to him. Lean against him, put an arm around him, or pull him in for a hug. When you’re ready for a kiss, lock eyes with him and move your face close to his. If you’re not sure if he’s in the mood, say something like, “Can I kiss you?” Once you get the green light, lean in and gently press your lips to his. Keep cuddling while you kiss him—try putting your arms around his neck, caressing his face or hair, or snuggling on his lap with your hands on his shoulders or chest. For tips on how to French kiss with your boyfriend, keep reading!

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