Soulmate Gem
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For humans, biologically speaking, soul mates are entirely real. But just like all relationships, soul mates can be complicated. Of course, there isn't a scientifically agreed-upon definition for “soul mate.” But humans are in a small club in the animal kingdom that can form long-term relationships.
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Read More »Amir Levine is a psychiatrist and the co-author of the book “Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love.” For humans, biologically speaking, soul mates are entirely real. But just like all relationships, soul mates can be complicated. Wp Get the full experience. Choose your plan ArrowRight Of course, there isn’t a scientifically agreed-upon definition for “soul mate.” But humans are in a small club in the animal kingdom that can form long-term relationships. I’m not talking about sexual monogamy. Humans evolved with the neurocircuitry to see another person as special. We have the capacity to single someone out from the crowd, elevate them above all others and then spend decades with them. In other words, soul mates are made possible for us because of the way our brain is wired. What’s fascinating to me is that we are all unique. Our DNA is unique. Our faces are unique. Our brains are unique. And yet we all have the brain neurocircuitry to see another person as more special than anyone else. What happens when we make someone special like that is they become more valuable than others. There’s a lot more at stake whether they call us or don’t call us. We take this ability for granted, but in the animal kingdom, it’s not that common. That neurocircuitry is called pair bonding. There’s a little rodent called a prairie vole that has a version of it. Prairie voles are grayish-brown, mouse-like creatures that don’t look particularly special. Unless, of course, you’re another prairie vole. When one prairie vole finds another, they mate once, and that’s it. They huddle together and follow each other everywhere. What’s interesting is that there are very similar voles, the montane voles and meadow voles, that are promiscuous. The differences in the brains of these two rodents has become a classic way of studying the biology of monogamy and pair bonding. It turns out prairie voles have more oxytocin and vasopressin receptors in their striatum, the area of the brain that’s associated with reward. These hormones are linked to feelings of trust, love and bonding. It’s a difference that allows prairie voles to create closeness with their mates. But even within the species, prairie voles can form different levels of attachment. Some voles have more oxytocin receptors and some less. Some are more attentive to their partner — they groom and lick them more compared to other prairie voles. And there are wandering prairie voles that have “affairs.” We see this variability in humans too. We can vary greatly in the strength of the bond we create. Some people have more caregiving tendencies; some people have less.
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