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Is it OK for an 18 year old to date a 16-year-old?

Generally speaking, an 18-year-old can date a 16-year-old provided that the relationship is not sexual. But if the relationship becomes sexual, then it could be illegal depending on the state.

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Posted on July 27, 2022

Generally speaking, an 18-year-old can date a 16-year-old provided that the relationship is not sexual. But if the relationship becomes sexual, then it could be illegal depending on the state. This is because each state has its own age of consent rules and Romeo and Juliet laws, and both can have an impact on the answer to the question. Note that states do not impose laws regarding the people that you can date. However, there are laws when it comes to who you can have sex with. If a state does make it illegal to have sex with a minor, the crime is generally known as statutory rape.

1. Can a 16-year-old date an adult child?

It is generally legal for a minor to be in a non-sexual dating relationship with an adult child. This includes the minor dating an 18-year-old, 19-year-old, 20-year-old, 21-year-old, etc. But note that just because it is not unlawful to date someone underage does not mean that anything and everything in the relationship is legal. Some non-sexual conduct in the relationship may still be against the law. For example, a person dating a minor will likely still have to take precautions to avoid violating such laws as:

2. Is it illegal to have sexual relations with a minor?

It can be. The specific answer to the question depends on a state’s age of consent laws and Romeo and Juliet laws. Note as well that states define sexual activity or sexual contact differently. The precise definition of these terms could also impact the answer to the question. If a state does make it illegal to have sex with a person underage, the sex act is considered a violation of statutory rape laws. Depending on the facts of the case and the state laws of the jurisdiction bringing the charges, statutory rape charges can get filed as either a misdemeanor or a felony.

3. What is the age of consent?

The age of consent is the minimum age someone has to be in order to legally consent to engage in sexual conduct. Whenever one person engages in sexual conduct with someone else who is under the age of consent, it is a sex crime.

Most states say that the age of consent is either:

18 years of age,

17 years of age, or

16 years of age.

For example, an 18-year-old is considered of the age of consent in the following states:

Arizona,

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California, and

Florida.

A 17-year-old is of the age of consent in the following states:

Colorado,

Illinois, and

New York.

A 16-year-old is of the age of consent in the following states:

Hawaii,

Idaho, and

Montana.

Because the age of consent varies by state, permissible sexual relations in one state can lead to criminal charges in another. The age of the couple always matters.

4. What are Romeo and Juliet laws?

Romeo and Juliet laws provide a close-in-age exception to statutory rape charges.

In other words, a person over the age of 18 is not guilty of a crime for having sexual relations with a minor if there is a small age difference between the two people. Consider, for example, the law in Texas. The state’s Romeo and Juliet law states that a minor can legally consent to sexual intercourse if: he or she is a 14-year-old, 15-year-old, or 16-year-old, the other consenting sexual partner is within a 3-year age gap of the person, and the sexual partner is at least 14 years old. Many other states have similar criminal laws. But note that they can vary. For example, some states may only require the partners to be within 5 years of each other. Further, some states do not have Romeo and Juliet laws in place. California, for instance, does not have such a law. Anyone who has sexual intercourse, or a sexual relationship, with someone else under the legal age of consent can be charged with a crime. The only exception is if the sexual partners were lawfully married. Note that Romeo and Juliet laws aim to protect high school sweethearts who have sexual relations from a serious sexual assault conviction.

5. Does a state’s definition of “sexual conduct” matter?

It can, yes. Different states define sexual conduct differently. This means what could be permissible sexual contact in one state might amount to a sex crime in another. Consider, for instance, Nevada law. The state says that it is illegal to have “penetrative sex” with a minor. Penetrative sex comprises any of the following sex acts:

ordinary sexual intercourse (vaginal intercourse),

anal intercourse,

cunnilingus,

fellatio, or

penetration with fingers or objects.

Other states may prohibit more or less acts. A result is that the specific sexual conduct that takes place in a case may dictate whether someone commits a crime.

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