How many dates until we sleep together?

There's no right or wrong number of dates (however you define that!) to wait until having sex (however you define that!). Whether it's been zero, three, 300, or infinity dates, what's most important is that: you want to have sex. the person(s) you're going to be having sex with want to have sex.

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Share on Pinterest Luke Liable/Stocksy United If you landed on this page, you probably asked Dr. Google “How long do I have to wait to have sex?” after meeting someone who does to your loins what matches do to candles (light them on fire). Or maybe you queried “How long can I wait to have sex?” after feeling pressured (*major side eye*) to drop your pants. That’s why we asked two sex educators to debunk the myth of The Right Number Of Dates™ before sex. What’s the short answer? Every (!) single (!) sexual relationship (!) is different (!). Some are just sexual. Some are also romantic (or have the potential to also be romantic). Some may even be spiritual (or have the potential to become spiritual). Because of this, “there’s no hard and fast rule about when you should or can be having sex,” says Caitlin V., MPH, clinical sexologist for Royal, a vegan-friendly condom and lubricant company. For the record: If you start having sex, there’s also no hard and fast rule about how often, how much, how long, or what kind of sex you should be having. In fact, according to her, this isn’t the right question to be asking. Instead, she recommends that you ask yourself the following: “How does my body and intuition let me know when I’m ready to have sex?”

“How do I best communicate that information to my (potential) partner(s)?”

Where did this idea originate? “The idea that you have to wait a specific number of dates before engaging in intercourse is socially approved manipulation,” says Caitlin V. The idea, she says, is that if you wait X number of dates, you’ll get a specific outcome. Usually, a ring. The problem: The belief that people (read: women) are more worthy of marriage if they wait X number of dates than people (again, women) who don’t wait that number of dates is a misogynistic attempt at controlling people’s (for the third time, women’s!) bodies. Is there a true average? What’s ‘normal’? *Buzzer noise.* Wrong question! “There’s no way to quantify what is a ‘normal’ amount of time of dating before having sex,” says Kahn. Because again, “sex” and “dating” have different meanings depending on who’s doing (or not doing) them. That said, there have been a handful of studies that attempt to answer this so-often-Googled question. One 10,932-person study from 2014 found that: 47.9 percent of people in a relationships waited a few weeks

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35.5 percent had sex on the first date or within the first few weeks of dating 9.9 percent had sex before the first date A smaller, 2,000-person survey from 2017 by Groupon found that men waited five dates on average, while women preferred to wait nine dates. (Researchers didn’t collect data on nonbinary folks.) The problem with both of these cis-heterocentric data sets is that they both presume: sex = P-in-V date = in-person meetup Are these findings interesting? Sure. But they shouldn’t impact when you choose to have sex, says Kahn. “Averages and data aside, the best time for you to have sex is still when you feel ready to have it and are interested in having it,” they say. Then how will you know if it’s the right time? “The only way to know if it’s the right time to sleep with a person is to ask yourself three questions,” says Caitlin V. These questions are: “Would having sex with them bring me pleasure?”

“Do I trust them enough to share intimacy with them?”

“Am I able to honor my boundaries and theirs?” “There are times when sleeping with someone might bring you pleasure, but you don’t know them well enough to trust them with your body,” she explains. “Or you might be out drinking, and even though you’d love to sleep with someone, you know that in your intoxicated state, you wouldn’t be able to honor your own boundaries if they wanted to do something you weren’t into.” It should go without saying, but whether or not the partner(s) in question want to have sex with you matters here, too. That’s why Kahn recommends asking your potential Sex Mate(s): “What does sex mean to you?” “Do you feel ready to have sex?” “What are things you need to feel safe and secure during and after sex?”

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sex toy play “What’s most important is that you and your partner(s) are all enthusiastically consenting and ready,” says Kahn. Is there ever a time when you shouldn’t do it? “If you feel in your heart or in the pit of your stomach that for sex — or a sexual activity — that it’s not time, then it’s not time,” says Caitlin V. You shouldn’t have sex, she says, if or when: you feel pressured to have it you feel it’s your only option or your only way out of the situation you feel that you owe it to another person And if you find yourself already having sex when you realize you don’t want to have sex, you can and should stop having sex right then and there! Remember: Consent has to be ongoing and can be withdrawn at any time.

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