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How long is too long to grieve?

Contact your doctor or a mental health professional if you have intense grief and problems functioning that don't improve at least one year after the passing of your loved one.

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Overview

Losing a loved one is one of the most distressing and, unfortunately, common experiences people face. Most people experiencing normal grief and bereavement have a period of sorrow, numbness, and even guilt and anger. Gradually these feelings ease, and it's possible to accept loss and move forward. For some people, feelings of loss are debilitating and don't improve even after time passes. This is known as complicated grief, sometimes called persistent complex bereavement disorder. In complicated grief, painful emotions are so long lasting and severe that you have trouble recovering from the loss and resuming your own life. Different people follow different paths through the grieving experience. The order and timing of these phases may vary from person to person:

Accepting the reality of your loss

Allowing yourself to experience the pain of your loss

Having other relationships

These differences are normal. But if you're unable to move through these stages more than a year after the death of a loved one, you may have complicated grief. If so, seek treatment. It can help you come to terms with your loss and reclaim a sense of acceptance and peace.

Symptoms

During the first few months after a loss, many signs and symptoms of normal grief are the same as those of complicated grief. However, while normal grief symptoms gradually start to fade over time, those of complicated grief linger or get worse. Complicated grief is like being in an ongoing, heightened state of mourning that keeps you from healing.

Signs and symptoms of complicated grief may include:

Intense sorrow, pain and rumination over the loss of your loved one

Focus on little else but your loved one's death

Extreme focus on reminders of the loved one or excessive avoidance of reminders

Intense and persistent longing or pining for the deceased

Problems accepting the death

Numbness or detachment

Bitterness about your loss

Feeling that life holds no meaning or purpose

Lack of trust in others

Inability to enjoy life or think back on positive experiences with your loved one

Complicated grief also may be indicated if you continue to:

Have trouble carrying out normal routines

Isolate from others and withdraw from social activities

Experience depression, deep sadness, guilt or self-blame

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Believe that you did something wrong or could have prevented the death

Feel life isn't worth living without your loved one

Wish you had died along with your loved one

When to see a doctor

If you have thoughts of suicide

At times, people with complicated grief may consider suicide. If you're thinking about suicide, talk to someone you trust. If you think you may act on suicidal feelings, call 911 or your local emergency services number right away. Or contact a suicide hotline. In the U.S., call or text 988 to reach the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, available 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Or use the Lifeline Chat. Services are free and confidential.

Causes

It's not known what causes complicated grief. As with many mental health disorders, it may involve your environment, your personality, inherited traits and your body's natural chemical makeup.

Risk factors

Complicated grief occurs more often in females and with older age. Factors that may increase the risk of developing complicated grief include: An unexpected or violent death, such as death from a car accident, or the murder or suicide of a loved one

Death of a child

Close or dependent relationship to the deceased person

Social isolation or loss of a support system or friendships

Past history of depression, separation anxiety or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

Traumatic childhood experiences, such as abuse or neglect

Other major life stressors, such as major financial hardships

Complications

Complicated grief can affect you physically, mentally and socially. Without appropriate treatment, complications may include:

Depression

Suicidal thoughts or behaviors

Anxiety, including PTSD

Significant sleep disturbances

Increased risk of physical illness, such as heart disease, cancer or high blood pressure

Long-term difficulty with daily living, relationships or work activities

Alcohol, nicotine use or substance misuse

Prevention

It's not clear how to prevent complicated grief. Getting counseling soon after a loss may help, especially for people at increased risk of developing complicated grief. In addition, caregivers providing end-of-life care for a loved one may benefit from counseling and support to help prepare for death and its emotional aftermath.

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