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How does the runner twin flame feel?

You're right – lonely. The yearning to be with their twin never stops, and while the runner is trying to reject the connection to their twin, in reality, they are only rejecting themselves. For this reason, the runner often encounters a phase of pain and loneliness when separated from their twin.

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It’s no secret that the twin flame chaser suffers from the separation, but have you ever wondered about how the twin flame runner feels about it all?

Believe it or not, but the runner often faces immense regret and pain upon separation from their twin. Let’s take a look at 11 aspects of the twin flame runner regret you might not have thought of!

1) They regret their own pain

I know, you’re probably thinking “wow, that’s no surprise”. And trust me, I’m with you 100%, this is definitely the most selfish aspect of their regret. It might not be what you want to hear. However, that doesn’t make their pain any less valid.

Think about it: how terrible does it feel for you to be separated from them?

They feel pretty much the same way, just that on top of that, they are in denial of their feelings. All that pent-up emotion is eating away at them and they will regret causing themselves so much pain. Chances are, they are relatively aware of their energy and frequencies, so they will notice how low they are on those fronts. Nobody likes to have such low-vibe energy, especially not someone aware of its consequences, so all of that combined will lead them to regret the pain they caused for themselves.

2) They regret causing pain for their twin flame

The twin flame runner can come off as a little selfish.

But wait, let me tell you something: more often than not, the twin flame runner regrets all the pain they caused for their twin flame. In most cases, hurting their twin is the last thing they want to do. Now, before you hit me with the “then why did they leave in the first place?”, it is incredibly hard to muster empathy and compassion when you feel like your heart got broken, I get it. But if you truly believe in twin flames, you know that this bond is deeply rooted in both twins’ souls. You are connected through unconditional love and just because your twin is running doesn’t change the way they feel about you. Nothing can break that bond and so your twin genuinely does not want to cause you pain.

Because they can’t avoid it, however, they are feeling immense regret.

It’s like being torn apart. Their soul calls for you and doesn’t want to hurt you, while their life path calls for a period of separation. As hard as it may be, cut your twin some slack and console yourself in the fact that they care about you deeply.

3) A gifted spiritual advisor confirms it

The signs above and below in this article will give you a good idea of twin flame runner regret. Even so, it can be very worthwhile to speak to a spiritual advisor and get guidance from them. They can answer all sorts of relationship questions, including those related to your twin flame. I recently spoke to someone from Psychic Source after going through a tumultuous twin flame relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into where my relationship is supposed to be going. I was actually blown away by how understanding, compassionate and knowledgeable they were. In a love reading, a gifted advisor can tell you what you need to know about twin flame runner regret. Most importantly, it can empower you to make the right decisions when it comes to your relationship.

4) They regret the limitations on the twin flame journey

Contrary to popular belief, the running twin is not always initiating the separation voluntarily.

In fact, the cause for the sudden separation could be:

They aren’t at the right frequency yet

They have unprocessed karma

They need to do more shadow work

They are stagnating in their spiritual work

They are plateauing in their personal development

The thing all of these have in common is that they lie out of the runner’s control.

Sometimes, the running twin might even be more frustrated than their counterpart!

It’s true – when you know you are causing a halt in this wonderful journey but you can’t control it, it’s a terrible feeling.

In these cases, the running twin may feel immense regret.

Although the initial causes for the separation lie out of their control, they have the chance to make things right again now.

In order to do that, they could:

Focus on shadow work

Process unresolved trauma

Go to therapy

Focus on themselves physically, spiritually, and emotionally

Unfortunately, as the chaser twin, you have no influence over how, when, or if they will work on themselves.

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This is always the case, by the way, no matter in what kind of relationship you are. The only thing you can influence is how you show up to the world and hopefully, that will inspire those around you to do the same.

5) They regret being the runner

In case you might be asking yourself if it’s fun being the runner – it’s not. After all, you are the “a**hole” of the story, leaving your other half behind. As much as we like to blame the runner for causing all that pain, they often don’t choose their role and are left feeling terrible for being the reason for all this suffering. Nobody likes being the bad guy, and in the case of twin flame runners, they often know that they are the ones preventing happiness for both themselves and their twin. That’s not a great feeling at all and often leads to tons of regret on the runner’s side.

6) They are terrified

If there is one thing that every twin flame runner feels when going into separation, it is fear. Fear is the reason they run in the first place. This could be:

Fear of being seen

Fear of being rejected

Fear of seeing themselves

Fear of letting their guard down

Fear of an intense connection

Fear of being vulnerable

Fear of getting hurt

Fear of abandonment

…and many more.

Understanding that fear is the root cause of the runner’s choice to separate will help you, as the chaser, in coping with this difficult situation. Fear is an incredibly strong emotion, causing people to act in ways they never would otherwise. Remember that you and your twin are a mirror for each other. Seeing yourself reflected back to you can be a painful and often very scary experience. The runner often regrets separating out of fear, but usually, they aren’t even aware that that’s the reason they felt like fleeing the relationship. You see, oftentimes a twin flame union causes feelings of unworthiness and self-rejection to flare up. The mere divinity of your bond can make your twin feel unworthy of such love. In other words, they feel like the connection is too good to be true, and that scares them. If your twin flame is scared and ignoring you because of it, then the below video might help you out:

7) They are scared of the work

By now, you should know that twin flame runners run out of fear. What you might not know, however, is that during the separation, they are often terrified of doing “the work”. Everyone knows the twin flame separation stage is meant to be a time of self-development and self-reflection. As beautiful as that may sound, “doing the work” is anything but pretty. Self-care is not just bubble baths and face masks, it’s crying until no more tears seem to flow on your bathroom floor. It’s having to call yourself out for all the unhealthy coping mechanisms you have developed over the years. It’s holding yourself accountable to meet your own needs and show up for yourself. None of that is easy. In fact, it’s one of the hardest things you’ll ever do in your life.

And thus, many twin flame runners are terrified of doing the work.

Life was so much easier before they were met with this divine connection, and now that their eyes are opened to all that needs to be worked on, they are scared.

It’s no wonder, after all, it is a confusing time.

Resistance to change plays a big part in that, as well. Humans don’t like change in general, it is scary and unpredictable. When the change involves work and pain, they want to do it even less. Your twin flame runner is most probably going through a time of inner conflict right now, scared of doing the work while simultaneously aware of how they can’t avoid it.

8) They feel disoriented

You would think that after the separation, the runner twin would feel free and happy, right?

That’s not usually the case. No matter if your twin flame is aware of the soul connection you share or not, when you’re in separation, they will feel disoriented. This is because, as I already mentioned, their role as the runner is not a conscious choice, causing them to feel confused. Think about it: their soul connection with you keeps pulling them towards you even though they are the ones running.

It’s a situation incomprehensible to the brain.

The good news, however, is a spiritual advisor can help you ‘comprehend’ this. See, you could analyze the signs until you reach the conclusion you want. But if you want honest guidance, then a gifted person can help you achieve it.

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I know from experience how helpful this ‘guidance’ can be. When I was going through a similar problem to you, a spiritual advisor helped me reach the right decision.

9) They feel anxious and overwhelmed

When the twin flame runner is not aware of the twin flame journey they’re on, this whole cocktail of emotions is likely causing them tons of anxiety. The truth is, as troublesome as your connection might be at times, it also acts as an anchor and a safe place. When your twin flame is running from all that, they are probably encountering many triggering situations that leave them feeling anxious. Triggers aren’t necessarily bad, though, they ultimately push both of you to do your shadow work and evolve.

Nevertheless, all of this turbulence can make the runner feel incredibly overwhelmed.

The constant pull towards their twin flame mixed with their resistance to the connection breeds misery. The more they resist, the more they crave this connection. If that’s not overwhelming, I don’t know what is.

10) They feel lonely

Even though the runner is the one cutting off the connection to their twin, the energy bond never dies. It constantly connects you two with unconditional love and the need to be together doesn’t cease to exist. That being the case, the runner can’t diminish the love they feel for their twin.

Think about this: how does someone feel when they are separated from the person they love (regardless of whether or not they’re happy about that connection)?

You’re right – lonely.

The yearning to be with their twin never stops, and while the runner is trying to reject the connection to their twin, in reality, they are only rejecting themselves. For this reason, the runner often encounters a phase of pain and loneliness when separated from their twin.

11) They feel hurt

Now, before you say “THEY feel hurt? I am hurt!!”, yes, I am not invalidating your feelings in this regard by any means. As counterintuitive as it may feel to you, the runner goes through lots of pain, as well.

Turns out, the runner sometimes experiences even more pain than the chaser!

How you may ask?

Well, as the chaser, chances are that you have already made more progress on your path to ascension. You know how to process your feelings, you worked on your coping mechanisms.

All those things are something the runner has yet to do.

As a consequence, the running twin will encounter many triggering and painful situations in order to push them towards working on themselves. It’s not an easy time for them, and sometimes, it’s not as simple as a matter of choice. All that pain will cause them to regret being the runner.

Can the chaser help the runner?

Now that you’ve learned so much about the twin flame runner regret, you might be asking yourself if there is anything you can do for them. Directly, there is nothing you can do, unfortunately. They are on their own path and will evolve at their own pace. As much as you’d want to, you can’t push them to grow any faster. The only thing you can do for them right now is to shift your focus on yourself.

You can try:

Learning a new skill

Trying out a new hobby

Moving to a new place

Traveling to a new country or city

Meeting new people

Working on your career goals

Working on personal goals

… and much more.

Do the things you didn’t do while in a relationship.

Most importantly, take care of yourself! That means:

Eating nourishing foods

Drinking plenty of water

Moving your body every day

Getting plenty of rest when you need it

Getting sunshine and fresh air every day

Having a meditation practice

Journaling about your feelings

Taking care of your hygiene

All of these things will make you feel better about yourself so that you’re not only working towards a better version of yourself, but you will also feel more confident. Trust in the fact that if that person is truly your twin flame, you will find your way to one another again, and if not, these steps will help you move on alone. Remember that no matter what you believe in, you are whole all on your own and you don’t need anyone to complete you.

Good luck on your journey and don’t forget to put yourself first.

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