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How do you live when your soulmate dies?

5 Ideas for Coping With Your Soulmate's Death Be gentle with yourself. ... Know that your soulmate may not be physically present, but… ... Start releasing some of your old habits. ... Learn how to “mourn heroically” with others. ... Let go of the pain (not your love for your soulmate)

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Your soulmate was more than a partner or lover. Your soulmate was your other half. How do you go on after losing your heart, spirit and soul?

Life may feel hopeless and impossible…but for some, the very idea of a soulmate feels impossible. Not everyone can live and love as deeply as you did. Not everyone will experience the depth of grief you’re going through. Surviving life after your soulmate dies isn’t just about mourning and grieving. It’s about accepting the fact that your life will never be the same. Your spirit, heart and soul are forever intertwined with your soulmate…and, believe it or not, that is good news. It means you will never be separated.

You may feel like you can’t go on when you lose your soulmate, whether the loss happened because of death, divorce, or a difficult breakup. You feel your soulmate’s absence in your heart, stomach, and soul. Your loss lodges inside you because your soulmate was part of you, your daily life and your identity. How do you live after losing your soulmate?

Yesterday I wrote Are You My Soulmate? How to Recognize Lasting Love. One thing I failed to mention in that article was the sadness of losing the love of your life. The biggest, saddest, most painful thing about finding your soulmate is living after loss.

5 Ideas for Coping With Your Soulmate’s Death

I wish I had a magic list of tips or easy fixes that will heal emotional numbness after losing someone you love — and I bet you wish that, too. But the truth is that there is no blog or book that will erase the pain of losing your soulmate. Nothing you read will bring the love of your life back, or restore the happiness you once had. I can’t imagine how you feel, and I am deeply sorry for your loss. May you find hope, encouragement, and faith here. Read through the comments section below; know that you are not the only one who doesn’t know how to live after losing her soulmate. You may even find a tip or two that will help ease the pain. Hold on to your faith, and the belief that you will soon start to feel the glimmer of hope that you are not alone. You never were, and you never will be.

1. Be gentle with yourself

“Remember to be heroically patient with yourself,” writes Alan Wolfelt When Your Soulmate Dies: A Guide to Healing Through Heroic Mourning. “For grieving soulmates, this tends to be a mourning need that you can only begin to take on substantively after months (and possibly years) of acknowledging the reality of the death and embracing the pain of the loss.” Remind yourself several times a day that you’ll get through the intense wave of grief and pain. The ache will rise and fall, come and go. Be gentle as you relearn life without your soulmate.

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When Your Soulmate Dies

You may feel like you’ll never recover from the loss or survive the grief you feel. Losing your soulmate is one of the most painful experiences — not only are you grieving the love of your life, you’re also left wondering who you are without him. You will never be the same. Give yourself time to adjust to the idea that you aren’t the woman you were with him, and you don’t know who you’ll be now that he’s gone

2. Know that your soulmate may not be physically present, but…

“You were one of the lucky ones,” writes Wolfelt in When Your Soulmate Dies. “You found a partner or friend with whom you shared a deeply profound connection. You understood, opened fully to, served, and challenged one another. You were the heroes of each other’s lives. You lived a grand adventure together.” What if your connection to your soulmate lives on, even if he or she isn’t physically present? Sit with that. Feel the relief, freedom, peace and joy of a spiritual connection. After all, that’s what soulmates are all about: a connection that surpasses life on earth. Pursue this. Go beyond practical tips for grieving the loss of a soulmate. Learn what it means to be spiritually present and connected with someone who is no longer in a physical body, but deeply rooted in your heart and soul.

3. Start releasing some of your old habits

If you and your soulmate cooked dinner together every night or texted throughout the day, find ways to change your routine. You and he had traditions, rituals, ways of living that shaped your daily life — that’s part of living with the love of your life! But now that he’s gone, it’s time to reshape your routine. Look at the habits you and your soulmate formed as a couple. What did you do together? Who were you, where did you go, how did you relate to each other and others? You might want to keep going to those places with the same people…or you might want to gently break free and start a new routine. If you feel numb, read How to Handle Emotional Numbness After Someone You Love Dies.

4. Learn how to “mourn heroically” with others

Reading books about soulmate grief can help you live with more meaning and purpose. Stories show you how others have healed, survived and even thrived after the loss of a loved one. Just knowing that other people can relate to how you feel can help you feel less alone. In When Your Soulmate Dies: A Guide to Healing Through Heroic Mourning, Alan Wolfelt describes the pain – and the hope – of learning how to keep going when you lose your soulmate.

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When Your Soulmate Dies helps readers embrace the pain of loss, remember their soulmates, and develop a new self-identity. Wolfelt also encourages readers to search for meaning and receive ongoing support from others. This book will help you muster the courage you need to move forward in your life with grace, purpose, and joy. Your grief isn’t like anyone else’s grief. The loss of your soulmate isn’t like someone else’s loss — there is no comparing grief or heartache. But it may be comforting to learn how others cope with the loss of their soulmates.

5. Let go of the pain (not your love for your soulmate)

Letting go of a soulmate is impossible. Letting go of the pain, however, is possible. Letting go after your soulmate dies doesn’t mean forgetting, pretending your heart isn’t broken, or putting up walls so you don’t get hurt again. Letting go is about loosening unhealthy attachments. It’s about healing your heart by facing the loss of the most important person in your life. When you let go of your soulmate, you find peace and freedom. In Letting Go of Someone You Love, I describe to how heal from a painful loss and move forward with hope and faith. If you think it would serve you, I encourage you to start moving forward in faith, hope and peace today. The grief of living without your soulmate grief is larger than life. It takes time, energy and courage to move forward while honoring your love. Give yourself time to absorb your loss. Remember that grieving takes time, energy and courage. That’s why Wolfert calls it heroic mourning. However you think of it – heroic or not – hold on to the little seeds of hope and healing, the small drops of joy and peace. That’s where your healing and freedom starts. How are you? Feel free to share your experience in the comments section below. You could honor your soulmate by sharing a memory, saying a prayer, or expressing how you feel.

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